Leaving Religion in Indonesia
Religious context: Largest Muslim-majority country in the world (~87% Sunni), with significant Christian minorities (~10%, both Catholic and Protestant/Pentecostal), Hindu majority in Bali (~1.7% nationally), and small Buddhist minority. Apostasy not federally criminalized but social and provincial cost is high.
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The Shape of Leaving in Indonesia
Indonesia is the largest Muslim country on earth and the texture of leaving Islam there varies enormously by region. Aceh has full sharia. Java is comparatively moderate. Outer islands have local syncretic blends. The blasphemy law, used most famously in the prosecution of former Jakarta governor Ahok, makes public criticism of religion legally dangerous. Apostasy itself is not a federal crime, but a publicly known apostate often loses family standing, employment, marriage prospects, and the right to identify legally with no religion (the official ID card requires one of six recognized religions).
There is also a significant Indonesian Christian exit happening, mostly out of Pentecostal and Protestant churches in Java, North Sumatra, and the Manado region. These look more like global Pentecostal exits than like the Muslim-majority national context.
For Indonesian readers, the pillar page on Islam (which addresses safety as the first concern) will likely matter most, alongside the page on telling your family. The OTD-style "double life" experience is very common among Indonesian ex-Muslims, especially in conservative regions, and the page on what to do practically while you are not yet ready to come out is written with this kind of reader in mind.
Pillar Pages for Indonesia
Which tradition you came out of matters more than what country you are in. These pillar pages are written specifically for the religious traditions most present in Indonesia.
Leaving Islam
For ex-Muslims who left or are leaving Islam — including those who cannot say so out loud yet because of family, community, or country. Honest writing on apostasy, secrecy, and rebuilding a life when the cost is high.
Leaving Pentecostal & Charismatic
For people leaving Pentecostal, charismatic, Word of Faith, IFB, or Apostolic churches. Speaking in tongues, prophetic words, faith healing, demons under every rock — and what it does to a body to come out of all of it.
Leaving Evangelical Christianity
For people deconstructing from American evangelical Christianity, non-denominational megachurches, Southern Baptist, and conservative Protestant traditions. Honest writing about losing your faith, your tribe, and the certainty you used to have.
Topics Most Relevant in Indonesia
The texture of the family rupture, the guilt, and the rebuild varies by country. These after-leaving pages tend to be the most useful for people from Indonesia.
When the family stops calling
For people whose family has cut off contact, formally or quietly, after they left their religion. The grief, the confusion, and what to do when the people who said they loved you stop showing up.
Telling your family you no longer believe
For people deconstructing who do not know how to tell their religious parents, siblings, or spouse what they actually believe now. Honest writing on timing, scripts, and what to do when the first conversation goes badly.
The guilt that does not switch off
For people who left their religion and still feel guilty for things that used to be sins. Why the guilt persists, what it actually is, and what reliably helps it loosen.
Cities in Indonesia
160 cities in Indonesia. The texture of leaving is often more local than national \u2014 leaving Catholicism in Salt Lake City is not the same as leaving the LDS Church in Salt Lake City, and city-level context matters.
Jakarta
8.5M
Surabaya
2.4M
Medan
1.8M
Bandung
1.7M
Bekasi
1.5M
Palembang
1.4M
Tangerang
1.4M
Makassar
1.3M
South Tangerang
1.3M
Semarang
1.3M
Depok
1.2M
Batam
1.2M
Padang
840K
Denpasar
835K
Bandar Lampung
800K
Bogor
800K
Malang
747K
Pekanbaru
704K
City of Balikpapan
700K
Yogyakarta
637K
Situbondo
600K
Banjarmasin
573K
Surakarta
555K
Cimahi
494K
Pontianak
455K
Manado
452K
Balikpapan
434K
Jambi City
420K
Ambon
356K
Samarinda
355K
Mataram
319K
Percut
311K
Bengkulu
310K
Jember
299K
Palu
282K
Kupang
282K
Sukabumi
276K
Tasikmalaya
271K
Pekalongan
258K
Cirebon
254K
Banda Aceh
251K
Tegal
237K
Kediri
235K
Binjai
229K
Purwokerto
217K
Purwakarta
216K
Loa Janan
213K
Pematangsiantar
210K
Ciputat
208K
Ciampea
207K
Cileungsir
202K
Rengasdengklok
201K
Sumedang
200K
Kendari
195K
Parung
194K
Tanjung Pinang
192K
Curug
191K
Labuan Bajo
189K
Cibinong
189K
Madiun
186K
From Indonesia? Tell Me What You Grew Up In.
What you were raised on. What started cracking. Where you are now. Be as specific as you can. I read every message myself and reply within a day or two.
Personal advice, not therapy. Email is free.