Leaving Religion in Iran
Religious context: Shia Muslim majority (~90%, mostly Twelver) with Sunni Muslim, Christian, Baha’i, Zoroastrian, and Jewish minorities; apostasy carries severe legal risk; Baha’i community especially persecuted.
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The Shape of Leaving in Iran
Iran has one of the largest underground non-believing populations in the Muslim world, much of it invisible to outsiders and to the regime. The 1979 revolution institutionalized an interpretation of Shia Islam that has been imposed on private life through the morality police, the family courts, and the criminal code. The result is a country where, by every available indirect measurement, a substantial portion of the population is no longer practicing while continuing to perform compliance in public.
The legal cost of apostasy in Iran is severe in principle but rarely applied in the form of formal prosecution; the more common path is loss of family standing, custody, employment, and social position. The Baha’i community has faced systematic persecution since 1979 and continues to. Christians and Jews have constitutional minority status but converts from Islam to Christianity face heavy informal pressure.
Iranian ex-Muslims, both inside the country and in the diaspora (especially in the US, Canada, Germany, Sweden, and the UK), are part of one of the largest organized ex-Muslim communities globally. The pillar page on Islam, with its safety-first framing, applies. Iranian readers reading this in Iran should approach as private and as carefully as their situation requires; readers in the diaspora may have very different latitude.
Pillar Pages for Iran
Which tradition you came out of matters more than what country you are in. These pillar pages are written specifically for the religious traditions most present in Iran.
Topics Most Relevant in Iran
The texture of the family rupture, the guilt, and the rebuild varies by country. These after-leaving pages tend to be the most useful for people from Iran.
When the family stops calling
For people whose family has cut off contact, formally or quietly, after they left their religion. The grief, the confusion, and what to do when the people who said they loved you stop showing up.
Telling your family you no longer believe
For people deconstructing who do not know how to tell their religious parents, siblings, or spouse what they actually believe now. Honest writing on timing, scripts, and what to do when the first conversation goes badly.
The guilt that does not switch off
For people who left their religion and still feel guilty for things that used to be sins. Why the guilt persists, what it actually is, and what reliably helps it loosen.
Cities in Iran
110 cities in Iran. The texture of leaving is often more local than national \u2014 leaving Catholicism in Salt Lake City is not the same as leaving the LDS Church in Salt Lake City, and city-level context matters.
Tehran
7.2M
Mashhad
2.3M
Isfahan
1.5M
Karaj
1.4M
Tabriz
1.4M
Shiraz
1.2M
Qom
900K
Ahvaz
841K
Pasragad Branch
788K
Kahrīz
767K
Kermanshah
621K
Rasht
595K
Kerman
578K
Orūmīyeh
577K
Zahedan
552K
Hamadān
528K
Āzādshahr
514K
Arāk
504K
Yazd
478K
Ardabīl
411K
Abadan
370K
Zanjān
357K
Bandar Abbas
352K
Sanandaj
349K
Qazvin
334K
Khorramshahr
331K
Khorramabad
330K
Khomeynī Shahr
277K
Sari
255K
Borūjerd
252K
Qarchak
252K
Gorgān
245K
Sabzevar
226K
Najafābād
223K
Neyshābūr
221K
Naz̧arābād
213K
Būkān
213K
Sirjan
208K
Bābol
203K
Āmol
199K
Bīrjand
197K
Bojnūrd
192K
Varāmīn
180K
Malāyer
177K
Sāveh
176K
Khowy
175K
Bushehr
165K
Mahābād
162K
Saqqez
151K
Marvdasht
149K
Rafsanjān
148K
Īlām
141K
Mīāndoāb
133K
Shahrud
132K
Gonbad-e Kāvūs
131K
Iranshahr
131K
Shahr-e Kord
129K
Torbat-e Ḩeydarīyeh
126K
Semnan
125K
Marand
124K
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From Iran? Tell Me What You Grew Up In.
What you were raised on. What started cracking. Where you are now. Be as specific as you can. I read every message myself and reply within a day or two.
Personal advice, not therapy. Email is free.