Leaving Religion in Australia
Religious context: Heavily secularized Christian-heritage country — "no religion" now ~39% and largest single category; Catholic (~20%), Anglican (~10%), other Christian (~13%); growing Muslim and Hindu minorities; significant LDS, JW, and Pentecostal populations.
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The Shape of Leaving in Australia
Australia has gone secular fast. "No religion" overtook Christianity as the largest census category in 2021 and the trend has only accelerated. The active deconstructions in Australia are mostly concentrated in specific sub-communities rather than the country as a whole. The Hillsong-and-friends Pentecostal megachurch network out of Sydney is one of the world’s most influential and has produced a substantial number of ex-Pentecostals as the church has gone through public scandals over the past decade. The Australian Catholic Church has been through its own abuse crisis, with the Royal Commission documenting decades of cover-up across multiple dioceses.
There is also a real and substantial Australian LDS community, especially in Brisbane, Melbourne, and the suburbs of Sydney, with the same exit dynamics as the US LDS exit. Australian Jehovah’s Witness exits are large per capita. And the immigrant ex-Muslim population in Sydney and Melbourne has been growing, drawing especially from the Lebanese, Iranian, and Afghan-Australian communities.
The advantage of deconstructing in Australia is the broader secular culture; the disadvantage, similar to the UK and Canada, is that secular friends sometimes underestimate the specific cost of high-control religious exits, and finding other ex-members of your specific tradition is the work that compounds.
Pillar Pages for Australia
Which tradition you came out of matters more than what country you are in. These pillar pages are written specifically for the religious traditions most present in Australia.
Leaving the Catholic Church
For ex-Catholics, lapsed Catholics, and people walking away from the church they were raised in. The guilt machinery, the family Mass, the saints you still half-believe in, and what comes next.
Leaving Evangelical Christianity
For people deconstructing from American evangelical Christianity, non-denominational megachurches, Southern Baptist, and conservative Protestant traditions. Honest writing about losing your faith, your tribe, and the certainty you used to have.
Leaving the Jehovah's Witnesses
For people who left the Jehovah’s Witnesses, are fading, or have been disfellowshipped. The shunning, the family that will not speak to you, the world after Armageddon never came. Honest writing from someone who walked an analogous road.
Leaving the LDS Church
For people who left the Mormon church or are in the middle of leaving. The temple, the family, the testimony you no longer have, and what comes next. Honest writing from someone who walked it.
Topics Most Relevant in Australia
The texture of the family rupture, the guilt, and the rebuild varies by country. These after-leaving pages tend to be the most useful for people from Australia.
The guilt that does not switch off
For people who left their religion and still feel guilty for things that used to be sins. Why the guilt persists, what it actually is, and what reliably helps it loosen.
When the family stops calling
For people whose family has cut off contact, formally or quietly, after they left their religion. The grief, the confusion, and what to do when the people who said they loved you stop showing up.
Finding friends after the church
For people who lost their friend group when they left the religion they were raised in. Honest writing on how adult friendships actually form, and why the loneliness after leaving is not permanent.
Cities in Australia
320 cities in Australia. The texture of leaving is often more local than national \u2014 leaving Catholicism in Salt Lake City is not the same as leaving the LDS Church in Salt Lake City, and city-level context matters.
Sydney
4.6M
Melbourne
4.2M
Brisbane
2.2M
Perth
1.9M
Adelaide
1.2M
Gold Coast
591K
Canberra
368K
Newcastle
308K
Wollongong
292K
Logan City
283K
Geelong
226K
Hobart
217K
Townsville
196K
Cairns
153K
Toowoomba
131K
Darwin
129K
Rockingham
108K
Launceston
106K
Bendigo
101K
Ballarat
98K
Mandurah
83K
Mackay
74K
Bundaberg
71K
Bunbury
68K
Maitland
67K
Rockhampton
62K
Adelaide Hills
60K
Melbourne City Centre
60K
Hervey Bay
52K
Reservoir
50K
Craigieburn
50K
Point Cook
49K
Tamworth
48K
Berwick
47K
Blacktown
47K
Pakenham
46K
Port Macquarie
46K
Glen Waverley
40K
Werribee
40K
Dubbo
40K
Castle Hill
39K
Orange
38K
Hoppers Crossing
38K
St Albans
38K
Auburn
37K
Baulkham Hills
37K
Frankston
36K
Sunbury
35K
Saint Albans
35K
Frankston East
34K
Tarneit
34K
Albany
34K
Rowville
33K
Mount Waverley
33K
Bathurst
33K
Southport
33K
Mildura
33K
Epping
33K
Canning Vale
33K
Preston
32K
More in Oceania
From Australia? Tell Me What You Grew Up In.
What you were raised on. What started cracking. Where you are now. Be as specific as you can. I read every message myself and reply within a day or two.
Personal advice, not therapy. Email is free.