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Better Together
The people you surround yourself with shape who you become. You have heard that a thousand times because it is true. Look at the five people you spend the most time with and you are looking at your future. When the people around you are growing, you grow. When they are building, you start building too.
I want to build something meaningful. I want to be around men who lift each other up. Men who fill their calendars. Men who do their pushups. Men who use AI to get ahead. Men who are building lives they are proud of. These are my folks. The best of the best. And if you are looking for a community that will welcome you and help you grow — there is a seat at this table for you.
The Right People Change Everything
Here is something I wish someone had told me sooner: when you feel stuck, it is often because you have not found the right people yet. Not because there is anything wrong with you — but because growth is hard to do alone. We all need men around us who understand what we are going through, who have walked a similar road, and who genuinely want to see us do well.
I am not saying walk away from your friends. I am saying expand your circle. Find men who are doing the work. Men who are honest about where they are and committed to where they are going. Men who will text you at 6 AM and say "did you do your pushups?" Men who celebrate your wins because your wins make them happy. That is the brotherhood I am building. Not a club. Not a brand. A community of men who care about each other's growth.
I went through bipolar, psych wards, religious trauma, a peyote ceremony, and a marriage separation. And the thing that kept me going — more than any medication, more than any therapy session — was having men around me who would not let me give up. Men who showed up when I did not want them to. Men who said "I see you hurting and I am here." That is what brotherhood actually looks like. Not matching t-shirts. Real care. Real accountability.
These Are My Folks
They Are Honest With You
Not in a harsh way — in a caring way. If they see you holding yourself back, they will gently say so. If you are doing well, they celebrate it. Real brotherhood is not a group of guys who agree with everything you say — it is a group of men who care enough to be honest with each other.
They Show Up
When you text at 2 AM because you are in a dark place, they answer. When you need help moving, they bring a truck. When you have a win, they are the first to say "let's go." These are not fair-weather friends. These are men who are in it with you — through the good days and the hard ones.
They Are Building Something
They are filling their calendars, doing their pushups, using AI, growing, and moving forward. When you spend time with men who are building, you start building too. That energy is contagious. Growth is contagious. Being around people who are moving forward pulls you forward with them.
They Are Growing Every Day
They are not perfect — nobody is. But they wake up every day and choose to move forward instead of standing still. That commitment to growth — that daily choice to keep going — is what connects men who are rebuilding their lives.
They Hold You Accountable
Not in a judgmental way. In a "did you do what you said you were going to do?" way. An accountability partner who checks in every day is worth more than a hundred motivational podcasts. When you know someone is going to ask you tomorrow, you are ten times more likely to do the work today.
They Have Been Through It
These are not men who have lived easy lives and want to lecture you about discipline. These are men who have been in the psych ward, the divorce court, the unemployment line, the bottom of a bottle — and they found their way back. They understand your pain because they have their own scars.
How to Get Involved
Start With a Conversation
Go to the contact page and send Elder X a message. Just be honest about where you are — what you grew up in if you left religion, what you are struggling with, what you want to build. He reads every message himself. There is no intake form, no sales funnel. Just a conversation. If it feels right, you keep talking. If it does not, no hard feelings.
One-on-One Coaching
$250/week — a 1-hour phone or Zoom call plus unlimited texts. This is the core offering. You get direct access to Elder X every day. Talk through what is weighing on you. Get help planning your week. Have someone who actually understands religious deconstruction, bipolar, psych wards, marriage strain, and rebuilding from zero. This is not therapy. This is a mentor who has walked the road and will walk it with you.
Accountability Partnerships
When you are ready, Elder X connects you with another man in the community who is at a similar stage. You agree on a daily check-in: a text, a short call, whatever works. "Did you do your pushups?" "Did you fill your calendar?" "What are you building today?" Knowing someone is going to ask you tomorrow changes what you do today. These partnerships are free — the only requirement is that you show up for each other.
Local Chapters
Elder X is building in-person chapters where men can meet face to face — a coffee shop, a park, someone's garage. These are low-barrier gatherings. No curriculum. No fees. Just men who are committed to growth sitting down together and talking honestly about what is real. If there is not a chapter near you yet and you want to help start one, tell Elder X. He is looking for men who want to lead.
Retreats & Gatherings
As the community grows, Elder X plans to host gatherings — a weekend in the mountains, a day of physical challenges, a place where men can get away from their routines and see each other face to face. These are not conferences. No keynote speeches. Just a brotherhood of men spending time together, building, and going home better than they came. Details will be shared with the community when dates are set.
Elder X's Vision
I want to build up and walk alongside these men. That is the vision. It is not complicated. I want a group of men who encourage each other to grow every single day. Men who fill their Google Calendars. Men who do their 5 pushups. Men who use AI for everything. Men who build something meaningful. Men who go home and share what they accomplished with the people they love.
Nobody is an expert. I am not an expert. You are not an expert. But together — encouraging each other, holding each other accountable, helping each other grow — we are something powerful. We are a brotherhood of men who chose to keep building. And that choice, made daily, changes everything.
Surround yourself with men who lift you up. That is all I am inviting you to try. Spend time with men who are growing and watch what happens to your own life. I think you will be surprised by what you are capable of.
Frequently Asked Questions
How do I actually join this community?
Start by reaching out through the contact page. Tell Elder X where you are, what you are working through, and what kind of support would help. He reads every message. From there, you will learn about the specific ways to plug in — one-on-one coaching, accountability partnerships, and what is available in your area or online.
Is this in-person or online?
Both. Elder X does one-on-one coaching over phone or Zoom. He is actively building local chapters and accountability partnerships so men can connect with others nearby. If there is not a chapter near you yet, you can still work directly with Elder X while the in-person community grows. The vision is worldwide — it starts with one conversation.
What does an accountability partnership actually look like?
You and another man check in daily — a text, a call, whatever works. "Did you do your pushups?" "Did you fill your calendar?" "What did you accomplish today?" It is not judgmental. It is a brother who cares whether you showed up for yourself. When you know someone is going to ask you tomorrow, you are ten times more likely to do the work today.
Do I have to have left religion to be part of this?
No. The brotherhood is for any man who wants to build a better life — whether that includes faith or not. What matters is that you are honest about where you are and committed to moving forward. Some men in this community are still figuring out what they believe. Others have been out for years. The common thread is that you want to grow.
Is there a cost?
Connecting with Elder X and being part of the broader community is free to start — reach out, have a conversation, see if it fits. One-on-one coaching with Elder X is $250/week (1 hour phone/Zoom plus unlimited texts). Accountability partnerships between members are free. The goal is to meet you wherever you are.
What if I am not ready to talk to anyone yet?
That is okay. Start with the Daily Protocol. Fill your calendar. Do your pushups. Work through the programs on this site. Use AI to plan and problem-solve. The community will be here when you are ready. You do not have to show up fully formed. Most men who reach out started where you are — not quite ready, but wanting something to change.
Ready to Find Your People?
There are men out there who are building, growing, and looking for the same kind of brotherhood you are. You are welcome here. Reach out.
“You find men who are building and you look for a way to build with them. That is what I am inviting you into.”